Anyways, my increasingly unpopular take in this day and age is that no one is entitled to know anything about an author’s personal life. They put their stories out there for you to judge, they didn’t put *themselves* out there. And expecting queer people to out themselves before you decide whether or not they deserve harassment is just fucking heinous.
The private life as eroded so steeply in the online age that there’s no longer even a cultural expectation of it. Indeed, people have elevated the curtailment of privacy to a virtue, and not only is that disgusting, it is all but GUARANTEED to come back and bite those of us with marginalized social identities on the ass in the next few years. Stop it! Resist the Facebookization of culture!
Do Not Let HR do this to you. It is not illegal to talk about wages in the work place. I did and got a 12% raise!
True info. Now let me add something: The power of documentation. (I was a long time steward in a nurses union.)
Remember: The “‘E” in email stands for evidence.
That cuts both ways. Be careful what you put into an email. It never really goes away and can be used against you.
But can also be a powerful tool for workplace fairness.
Case 1: Your supervisor asks you to do something you know is either illegal or against company policy. A verbal request. If things go wrong, you can count on them denying that they ever told you to do that. You go back to your desk, or wherever and you send them an email: “I just want to make sure that I understood correctly that you want me to do xxxxx” Quite often, once they see it in writing, they will change their mind about having you do it. If not, you have documentation.
Case 2: You have a schedule you like, you’ve had that schedule for a while, it works for you. Your supervisor comes to you and says “We’re really short-handed now and I need you to change your schedule just for a month until we can get someone else hired. It’s just temporary and you can have your old schedule back after a month.” A month goes by and they forget entirely that they made that promise to you. So, once again, when they make the initial request, you send them an email “I’m happy to help out temporarily, but just want to make sure I understand correctly that I will get my old schedule back after a month as you promised.” Documentation.
[Image ID: Text reading: In the middle of a busy clinic at our practice, I got pulled in by my manager to speak to HR, who must have made a special trip because she lives several states away, and told I was being 'investigated’ for discussing wages with my other employees. She told me it was against company policy to discuss wages.
Me; That’s illegal.
Them: (start italics) three slow, long seconds of staring at me blankly (end italics) Uh…
Me: That’s an illegal policy to have. The right to discuss wages is a right protected by the National Labor Relations board. I used to be in a union. I know this.
HR: Oh, this is news to me! I have been working HR for 18 years and I never knew that. Haha. Well try not do do it anyway, it makes people upset, haha.
Me: people are entitled to their opinions about what their work is worth. Bye.
I then left, and sent her several texts and emails saying I would like a copy of their company policy to see where this wage discussion policy was kept. She quickly called me back in to her office.
HR: You know what, there is no policy like that in the handbook! I double check. Sorry about the confusion, my apologies.
Me: You still haven’t given me the paper saying that we had this discussion. I am going to need some protection against retaliation.
HR: Oh haha yes here you go.
I just received a paper with legal letterhead and an apology saying there was no verbal warning or write up. Don’t even take their shit you guys. Keep talking about wages. Know your worth. /End ID]
At one of my old (shit) jobs my boss would continually come have these verbal discussions with me and would never put anything in writing I took to summarizing every discussion we had in email. Like “just to confirm that you asked me to do X by Y date and you understand that means I won’t be able to complete the previous task you gave me until Z date - 2 weeks later than originally scheduled - because you want me to prioritize this new project.
The woman would then storm back into my office screaming at me for putting the discussion in writing and arguing about pushing back the other project or whatever. At which point I would summarize that conversation in email as well. Which would bring her storming back in, rinse and repeat ad nauseum.
Anyway I cannot imagine how badly that job would have gone if I hadn’t put all her wildly unreasonable demands in writing. Bitch still hated me but she could never hang me for “missing deadlines” because I always had in writing that she’d pushed the project back because she wanted something else done first.
Paper your asses babes. Do not let them get away with shit. If they won’t put what they’re asking you to do in writing then write it up yourself and email it to them.
the christian concepts of repentance and sin are genuine soul poison
wow i wonder if perhaps there is some fundamental difference in the role that christianity and judaism have played in world history vis-a-vis the religions adopted and perpetuated and therefore shaped by the forces of global imperialism, or some kind of history of cultural perception of judaism, that would make a blanket condemnation of judaism raise red flags in the way a blanket condemnation of christianity doesn’t. much to think about
Doctor Mother not having powers is interesting and cool and I love the idea of the most powerful woman in the multiverse being a normal human with no superpowers, but honestly it’s kind of heartbreaking to me that she held off on drinking a vial. Because she had to have wanted powers at some point, but what did it matter if she got them? She administered and watched the process of thousands of vials, and none of them produced anyone who would do more than annoy Scion. Her closest and oldest companion (because are her and Contessa even friends?) has all the power in the world and it’s never enough. So what’s the fucking point of drinking a vial? She knows more than anyone that whatever power she gets will never be enough, she’ll be nothing more than a speck to Scion. So she holds off on drinking a vial, what’s the point of her drinking one anyway? The idea of drinking that vial became a source of hope to her in a decades long fight where they have no chance of winning. If she doesn’t have powers, then theoretically when she finally gets them they may be able to do the job, there’s still the chance of finding the miracle silver bullet even if she knows that she’ll end up like everyone else that can never do enough.
I’m imagining if tolkien lived now and publishers were asking him if he had enough followers on twitter and if he could film videos to market his found family elfcore magic cottagevibes worldbuilding fantasy book on tiktok. i think he would run them over with his car actually
